There’s a certain kind of woman you remember.
Not necessarily the loudest woman in the room. Not always the most conventionally beautiful, the most accomplished, or the one with the biggest personality.
She just has something.
A distinct way of speaking. A strange little obsession with 1970s architecture. A perfume she has worn for years. A list of restaurants she swears by. Opinions that feel considered rather than downloaded from the internet.
She has taste. But more importantly, she has a point of view.
And the good news? You don't need to be born with it.
Taste can be trained.
Personality can be sharpened.
Your life can slowly become a collection of things you've deliberately chosen rather than things the algorithm handed you.
Here are a few ways to start.
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01. Keep a Monthly Obsession
Pick one thing every month and go embarrassingly deep.
A designer.
A decade.
A wine region.
A filmmaker.
A neighborhood.
A fabric.
A perfume house.
A historical figure.
Don't just consume the surface-level Pinterest board.
Read about it. Watch interviews. Look at photographs. Find documentaries. Learn the history. Notice what keeps appearing.
Maybe August becomes your Italian cinema month.
September is Japanese architecture.
October is 90s fashion photography.
By the end of the year, you've accidentally built twelve tiny areas of expertise.
And suddenly, you aren't just saying, “I like this.”
You know why you like it.
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02. Try the Three-Reference Rule
Every time something catches your attention, find three examples.
Like an outfit?
Save three.
Love an interior?
Find three more.
Read an essay that made your brain light up?
Save three similar ones.
Found a restaurant you adore?
Look for three others with something in common.
The point isn't collecting thousands of saved posts you'll never open again.
It's comparison.
When you put three things beside each other, your brain starts noticing patterns.
Oh, I like this kind of neckline.
I apparently love warm wood and terrible lighting.
Every essay I enjoy has a slightly obsessive narrator.
That is how taste becomes specific.
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03. Have One Identity Experiment Every Month
You don't need to reinvent yourself every Tuesday.
Instead, give yourself tiny experiments.
One month of red lipstick.
One month of silver jewelry.
One month of dressing almost entirely in neutrals.
One month of ordering exactly what you want at restaurants instead of automatically saying, “Whatever you want.”
One month of asking people better questions.
One month of saying what you actually think.
You're not permanently changing your personality.
You're collecting data.
You're discovering which versions of yourself feel natural, which feel ridiculous, and which make you think:
Wait. I actually like her.
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04. Build a Signature Recommendation List
Become the girl who knows things.
Not everything.
Just something.
Have five things you genuinely recommend in a particular category.
Five books.
Five cafés.
Five documentaries.
Five lip products.
Five essays.
Five date spots.
Five comfort movies.
Five websites that make the internet feel less unbearable.
When someone says, “I don't know what to read,” you have an answer.
When someone asks where they should go, you have an answer.
That's how people start associating you with taste.
And being memorable isn't always about being impressive.
Sometimes it's simply about being useful in a very specific way.
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05. Practice the 90-Second Story
This one is painfully underrated.
Learn how to tell a story without taking your audience through your entire cinematic universe.
Give it:
Beginning → middle → end.
What happened?
What changed?
Why does it matter?
You don't need to eliminate every detail. You just need to know which details deserve oxygen.
Being able to tell a good story in 90 seconds is a social superpower.
Because people don't remember every conversation they've had.
They remember the person who made a story worth listening to.
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06. Take a Weekly “Taste Walk”
Go somewhere and deliberately look.
A neighborhood.
A hotel lobby.
A bookstore.
A museum.
A café.
A market.
Your own city, even.
Your only assignment is to notice five things you'd steal.
Not literally. Please leave the hotel lamp where you found it.
Maybe it's the typography on a menu.
The way a shop displays objects.
Someone's color combination.
A chair.
A doorway.
The lighting.
A bizarre little sign.
Take notes.
Your eye gets sharper when you train it to look for things.
Eventually, you stop seeing a room.
You start seeing composition.
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07. Keep a One-Line Thesis Journal
Traditional journaling asks:
What happened today?
Try asking:
What do I actually think about what happened?
At the end of the day, write one sentence.
“People become defensive when they feel like they're being replaced.”
“I think convenience has made me less patient.”
“I don't actually dislike mornings. I dislike having somewhere to be.”
“Some friendships survive because neither person asks for anything.”
One sentence.
That's it.
Over time, you'll have a strange little archive of your own thinking.
And somewhere between those sentences, a worldview starts forming.
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08. Keep an “I Noticed…” File
Instead of only collecting opinions, collect observations.
Start sentences with:
I noticed…
I noticed that everyone in this café is working alone.
I noticed that people speak differently when they're trying to impress someone.
I noticed that the expensive restaurant had the least interesting lighting.
I noticed that I only enjoy productivity systems when they make my life prettier.
I noticed that people who say they don't care about fashion often have very specific preferences about clothes.
Observations are the raw material of interesting thoughts.
You don't need to have a hot take on everything.
Sometimes you just need to notice something everyone else walked past.
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09. Host Tiny Salons
You don't need a sprawling dinner party with twelve courses and place cards.
Invite two to four people.
Give the evening a theme.
“Best documentary you've watched lately.”
“The weirdest internet rabbit hole you've fallen into.”
“A book that permanently changed your taste.”
“Things we're irrationally obsessed with.”
“Something you changed your mind about.”
Then talk.
The goal isn't networking.
It's creating a room where people actually have something to say.
Because memorable people don't just have interesting personalities.
They create interesting environments.
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So, What Should You Steal This Week?
Don't attempt all nine.
That's how a beautiful idea becomes another abandoned Notion page.
Pick one.
Start a monthly obsession.
Take a taste walk.
Create your “I noticed…” file.
Write one thesis every night.
Make your five-item recommendation list.
Whatever feels slightly outside your usual routine, start there.
Because becoming more interesting isn't about performing some sophisticated version of yourself.
It's about paying closer attention.
To what you like.
To what you notice.
To what you believe.
To what keeps pulling you back.
Eventually, all those tiny choices begin to form a pattern.
And that pattern becomes you.
Not an aesthetic.
Not a Pinterest board.
Not a personality assembled from whatever is trending this week.
A point of view.
And honestly?
That's much harder to forget.
